I find humiliation to be one of the most interesting of all the BDSM activities that I am involved with.
I feel that it is at the route of many different fetishes.
What interests Me about humiliation is the psychological aspect.
I am going to use this blog to discuss My own personal thoughts on the subject.
My aim is to give you, the reader, an insight into the reasons behind why I am so passionate about the main foundation of My work – the mind & humiliation.
When reading, please consider that everything written is from My own frame of reference.
My perception of this may be worlds apart from yours.
With this, I welcome your thoughts on the subject, via email.
So. Listen up you sad fucking loser!!!!
I bet you didn’t expect that!
Did it surprise you?
For many, reading such unexpected abuse will have caused offence and possibly a defensive reaction. Did it raise the hackles?
However, for some, just reading that very line will have brought on an instant wave of anxiety. Perhaps taking them back to a time in their mind where they were unexpectedly taken aback and humiliated.
Humiliation can leave you with an intensely painful feeling.
In My experience, as well as mental anguish, the body also reacts when one is humiliated.
Sweaty palms, a quivering lip, a raised heart beat and the most obvious, a bright red face!
These symptoms only intensify the feelings created when one is embarrassed.
For Me, it is almost like having nowhere to hide, which brings Me to My next point.
Instinctively, it is My belief that when we are so open to threat our brain goes into self preservation mode.
We fight to protect ourself.
It is our way of taking back the control.
Common techniques are our minds natural defence menchanisms such as, distorting the situation or perhaps projecting the situation onto someone else, or even, not so commonly, by becoming aroused by the situation.
In the midst of pain, with the aid of a defence mechanism, could the body resort to pleasure?
Is it the minds way of taking the control back from a situation that was once out of our control?
Is the peak of your climax a direct hit back at the person humiliating you?
Are you the one that is subliminally taking control of a situation?
Are you the dominator?
I believe that in some cases, the answer is – yes.
I believe that somehow the mind has very cleverly adapted itself to protect oneself from extreme uncomfortable feelings.
I am no psychologist and these are just My thoughts.
My feeling is that I am ever so slightly touching the iceberg and that there are many other interesting perceptions on this subject. The mind baffles Me. With this, I accept that there are no straight answers or concrete theories behind the thoughts and feelings we have as functioning human beings. It is My strong curiosity and lack of understanding that strives My passion.
I am very aware that we all perceive differently and that no one knows us better than we know ourselves. It does not matter whether or not you agree with My thoughts, if anything I hope it has given you little snippet of how I think, and a better understanding of why I am so truly fascinated by the psychological aspects of domination and why it is at the foundation of My practice.
Thank you for taking the time to read My blog.